Jordan Peterson argues that voluntarily taking on responsibility as the main source of meaning in life. It is an interesting proposition, and is probably at least somewhat true. That has drawn my attention to the fact that I seem to have been avoiding unnecessary responsibility for a long time. At work I am (intentionally) the second in command in most positions I take, or a consultant, which involves even less responsibility. I avoid the responsibility of a full time job to keep open the potential of working for Scott, or other movie projects. At church, I help out where ever I can, without committing to do so (besides leading home group). My main ministry to camps entails responsibility for the safety of the people who use what I build, but beyond that, I am a volunteer who takes on little further responsibility compared to a camp staff member. But I use that ministry as an excuse to avoid other ongoing responsibilities locally, since I travel so much for that and work. I obviously parent my own kid, but avoiding further responsibility is one reason we haven't further pursued fostering or adopting. (That also might require a larger house, which would cost more, which would require even more responsibility on the career front, etc.)
I handle the responsibilities that I have just fine (Family, Scott, Apple, Ropes Courses, Home Group) but I rarely voluntarily take on more or new responsibilities. This is likely because no one taught me that principle growing up, and instead I associated responsibility with stress. And stress was a bad thing to be avoided, so I have structured my whole life to minimize stress, relatively successfully, but possibly to my detriment. Stress can strain relationships, which can already be challenging for me, and can harm one's health. So I might live longer, but I would be living less during that time, if I wholly committed to avoiding stress. So I need to make changes there, but I have 40 years of habits and inclinations pushing me in the wrong direction. Small steps might be more responsibilities at church, instead of just 'helping out' when I happen to be available. Then maybe some changes at the job level, since some things have been shifting in that realm for awhile, and the current trajectory isn't sustainable for long. But one step at a time, and church seems like the initial move.